The Spider’s Bite

Recently, I had to perform a painful action, perhaps the most forthright and painful decision I've made in my life, although perhaps this combination of self-assertiveness and rightful action was also self-empowering. Most of my life, I have refrained from making decisions that resulted in certain and abrupt endings because I feared conflict. But in… Continue reading The Spider’s Bite

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Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: How the Narcissist Uses Trauma As A Way To Obtain Supply

“After listening for almost twenty-five years to the stories my patients tell me about sociopaths who have invaded and injured their lives, when I am asked, “How can I tell whom not to trust?” the answer I give usually surprises people. The natural expectation is that I will describe some sinister-sounding detail of behaviour or… Continue reading Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: How the Narcissist Uses Trauma As A Way To Obtain Supply

Becoming Smaller, Being Invisible: Energetic ‘shrinking’

Me: a clean white line the limits and boundaries marked out at the edge of my fingers; and I, I- feeble I, a noun hovering over a snow-lit silence, the brittle ice cracks that encrust my rock-solid heart, a red stone of beating fire within the chest, disassociated from-- me, world, it; leering over my… Continue reading Becoming Smaller, Being Invisible: Energetic ‘shrinking’

Cultural Appropriation or the Colonization of Identity?

I've lately been privy to the reality of White people seeing 'cultural appropriation' as another way to slap other White people and non-White people about what culture is or is not for them. Ironically, they often do not have any education about the culture they speak of, nor about the complex nature of identity, cultural… Continue reading Cultural Appropriation or the Colonization of Identity?