Recently, I had to perform a painful action, perhaps the most forthright and painful decision I've made in my life, although perhaps this combination of self-assertiveness and rightful action was also self-empowering. Most of my life, I have refrained from making decisions that resulted in certain and abrupt endings because I feared conflict. But in… Continue reading The Spider’s Bite
Words move, music moves Only in time; but that which is only living Can only die. Words, after speech, reach Into the silence. Only by the form, the pattern, Can words or music reach The stillness, as a Chinese jar still Moves perpetually in its stillness. "Burnt Norton", T.S Eliot Drawing was what saved my… Continue reading I Draw, Hence I Am: Art as Magical Practice
“After listening for almost twenty-five years to the stories my patients tell me about sociopaths who have invaded and injured their lives, when I am asked, “How can I tell whom not to trust?” the answer I give usually surprises people. The natural expectation is that I will describe some sinister-sounding detail of behaviour or… Continue reading Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing: How the Narcissist Uses Trauma As A Way To Obtain Supply
Me: a clean white line the limits and boundaries marked out at the edge of my fingers; and I, I- feeble I, a noun hovering over a snow-lit silence, the brittle ice cracks that encrust my rock-solid heart, a red stone of beating fire within the chest, disassociated from-- me, world, it; leering over my… Continue reading Becoming Smaller, Being Invisible: Energetic ‘shrinking’
I've lately been privy to the reality of White people seeing 'cultural appropriation' as another way to slap other White people and non-White people about what culture is or is not for them. Ironically, they often do not have any education about the culture they speak of, nor about the complex nature of identity, cultural… Continue reading Cultural Appropriation or the Colonization of Identity?
In my dealings with group dynamics of late, I realize that often a charismatic figure arises who often seems incredibly self-assured about their own truths. Often, these characters seem to be great leaders, minimizing any group dissonance that arise and creating order from chaos. They usually have a singular tenant or principle that they follow… Continue reading How to Spot a Hidden Narcissist
Yesterday, my friend Justine offered to do a reading for me about one's soul, body and mind and the connection between these three elements. She asked me a few questions about which parts of my body I feel strongest, most emotions and most connected to and this made me reflect on the journey my spirit, mind and body have been… Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?
Lately, I had been feeling a gentle pressure to take an epsom salt bath for some time. At the same time, one of my friends on FB posted about having gotten similar messages from Spirit (see right) to 'chill out'. I was feeling rather PMS-ed: swollen, bloated and just feeling generally physically ill-at-ease. Of course,… Continue reading A message from Spirit: Turning up for myself
When it comes to 'that time of the month', do you feel like an over-swell of emotions, a bag of needs, an over-exerted body sack? I am at the point right now- day 35 and counting of my overdue period, and I'm having a lot of trouble coping with the hormonal aspect of it. Having… Continue reading Tide in, tide out- Dealing with the Torrents of PMS
Since the New Year came around, I had implemented various physical and mental changes into my life in an effort to be less anxious, energetically stable and- in general- to have firmer boundaries over the types of energy I take in and give out (this also includes distancing myself from people I perceive to be toxic… Continue reading My So-Called “New Year Resolutions”